Relationship Health for Dummies

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being. Many couples forget their roots.Once they become a couple, they often lose track of the reasons why they bonded in the first place. Why is that?  As individuals do we really change that much?  I don't think so. So why the drift? Often we just get comfortable and lazy. To fix it, we have to inject new life into the mix.
Think about your relationship, and how you and your lover interacted when the relationship was new—likely there was there more kissing, touching, texting and bantering than now . Sending those little love notes or messages to each other throughout the day does wonders in moving a relationship forward.  Why would we want to let that initial excitement die? Some relationships were never meant to last, but of those that are, it is important that we actively pursue success.  We often blame the failure on stress, stress at work, financial stress, etc., but this is not the real culprit here.  Many of the issues were probably the ones that made us closer in the first place.

If we are like most couples, we just get lazy. We get into our comfort zone, and let things deteriorate past the point of no return. Men might check out other women and make complementary comments about them, all the while forgetting to compliment the one they are with.  Now, I am not putting any blame here - women can be guilty of this also. What often starts out as small moments of neglect cascade into a habit of inconsideration. We start to feel less adequate - less attractive. Many times we do not want to bring up each small issue,for fear of looking like a nit picker, but the result is a cascading failure of the relationship as small issues continue to be swept under the carpet. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We must always be sensitive to our partner's feelings - relationships take work, and when both partners work at it - it grows into a lasting romance. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
3) Men, stop ogling—there's  no harm in looking, but lets get real here, is it necessary to ogle at every pretty face you see when you got the best thing right next to you. And yes, this goes for women also.
4)  Dishonesty is the root of all relationship dissension – make a habit of telling the truth, even if it might lead to embarrassing explanations.
5) Have some alone time....every day make a little time whether its just a stroll, or snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie
6) Communicate- tell your partner how you feel, and work things out before they become worse than they are.
7) Start your day off with a kiss and a statement that re-enforces your love and commitment to each other.
8) Be spontaneous- flirt with each other-  a little kissing on a stairwell before work can be rather sexy, and keep your partner thinking about you throughout the day
9) Don't be so serious...Laugh, smile, you know that saying “Partners that laugh together stay together” Its so true.....
10)  Never go to bed angry – talk it out and work it out – the best thing for a relationship is a kiss before you go to sleep. The second best thing is sex before you go to sleep. You cannot have the second without the first.

Relationships all have their ups, and downs, but if you have heart, and desire to make it work it will blossom into something special. So, don't let that spark creep away- follow the above rules, and create some of your own a long the way....just have fun if you can dream about it then you can achieve it..

http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/advice_for_women.php

Understanding Sex Appeal

What is the je ne sais quas of sex appeal? The dictionary describes it as”the capability to attract sexual interest from others”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”attractive in a sexual way.” You might confuse the two as being the same, but you would be wrong, as you will see below.

Assume a man sees  a cute girl walking down the street wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top for visual impact.  He may trip over his tongue because she looks sexy, but does that mean she has sex appeal? While sexy and sex appeal are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do to get a more appreciative  look?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there is lots of sexy eye candy to attract their short term attention. Sexy for the most part will always get attention,but unlike sex appeal it will never hold interest. Sexy is eye candy first and foremost, and will generally never amount to more than that.  Someone who dresses to grab attention can be sexy, but it will seldom if ever lead to more persistence of notice, and that is the difference here. Sexy is the whipped cream without the pie.

Sex appeal is more than just eye candy, it is more about having poise, and knowing your worth. When someone has these features they catch the eye of surrounding people. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will will command positive attention regardless of the attire. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always intelligent individuals  with a sense of humour, and who are comfortable with their own sexuality. Everyone knows a few people that are upbeat and positive even in adverse situations. It lets people know that they're fun to be with, and this is another trait of sex appeal.

Sex appeal holds its head high, it stands tall,and makes its presence known. Women with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  treat each relationship as a fresh new experience and do not expect people to behave like others, either positively or negatively. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal generally emanates from positive outgoing people never run down, but rather talk up other people. All of this flows from them being the sensual and loving people that they are.

Now do you see the differences? It pretty much boils down to this-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about stature, personal development and image of yourself. Men will look at sexy—no doubt, but it takes the whole person to get into his head, and past the eyes.

 For More Information On This And Other Topics Follow The Links Below:

 Advice For Women:

http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/