Sustaining a Relationship

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being. Many couples forget their roots. Once they start to live together, they seem to gradually lose the bonds that attracted them in the first place. Why is that?  Do we really change all that much?  I don't think so. So why the drift? Often we just get comfortable and lazy. So, how do we fix this you ask—by nipping it in the bud before it gets to the point of no return.

You should reflect on your relationship and what has changed—I bet there was a lot more teasing, kissing, fondling, and with the technology these days, a lot more texting too . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now.  It all used to come so easy with the excitement of having a new partner - do we have to let that excitement die? For a long term relationship to succeed for the long term, a lot of work is required from both parties.  We often blame the failure on stress, stress at work, financial stress, etc., but this is not the real culprit here.  Many of the issues were probably the ones that made us closer in the first place.

If we are like most couples, we just get lazy. We get into our comfort zone, and let things deteriorate past the point of no return. Men for instance, start ogling more at other women, and making comments about how good looking they are, and they forget about the one their with.  Now, I am not putting any blame here - women can be guilty of this also. The point is we stop complimenting each other, and for the person at the other end of this scenario it can be quite a let down. We start to feel less adequate - less attractive. Most times were even afraid to say something for fear of upsetting the other person even though their actions have made us angry. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We must always be sensitive to our partner's feelings - relationships take work, and when both partners work at it - it grows into a lasting romance. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Love them and tell them that you love them. Never force them to assume that you love them
3) Men have to stop staring at other women – it may be conditioned by advertising, but it is just demeaning to your partner. And women need to think about comments that they may make about other guys.
4)  Honesty.....no one likes to be lied to so why do it. Tell each other everything, it will produce conversation
5) Have some alone time....every day make a little time whether its just a stroll, or snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie
6) Talk to each other and make sure you bring up issues and work them through before they become an insurmountable obstacle.
7) Start your day off with a kiss and a statement that re-enforces your love and commitment to each other.
8) Be spontaneous- flirt with each other-  a little kissing on a stairwell before work can be rather sexy, and keep your partner thinking about you throughout the day
9) Don't be so serious...Laugh, smile, you know that saying “Partners that laugh together stay together” Its so true.....
10)  Make a point of never going to bed angry- whatever is bothering you talk it out, its not worth losing sleep over, and it starts your next day on a negative note. Make some time to snuggle when you get into bed....create a good night ritual. Some couples just get into their own sides of the bed, and that's it. I don't know about you, but  that is not my idea of a Good Night. Take a few moments to caress, and make going to sleep a wonderful thing knowing that you will be waking up beside your Prince or Princess in the morning.

Relationships are hard work but worth the effort. Keep at it so that your relationship becomes more play than work. When it becomes second nature to you, you have truly achieved the epiphany of satisfaction.

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Maintaining A Healthy Relationship

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being. Many couples forget their roots. After being together for a  few years or more they seem to lose that friendship that once bonded them together. Why is that?  As individuals do we really change that much?  I don't think so. So why then do we so often start to drift apart? Often we just get comfortable and lazy. To fix it, we have to inject new life into the mix.

Think about your relationship, and how you and your lover interacted when the relationship was new—likely there was there more kissing, touching, texting and bantering than now . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now.  Who in their right minds would let that initial excitement die? For a long term relationship to succeed for the long term, a lot of work is required from both parties.  We often blame the failure on stress, stress at work, financial stress, etc., but this is not the real culprit here.  Many of the issues were probably the same ones we've  dealt with in the past that made us closer in the first place.

We fall into a pattern- we get lazy. Both partners get into their comfort zone, and let things go,and before you know it their at that point where they never thought they'd be. Men for instance, start ogling more at other women, and making comments about how good looking they are, and they forget about the one their with.  Women might take a look at the cute butt of some hot guy, and romanticize about them. The issue is that we start to neglect each other in small ways that end up being very significant in the long run. We start to feel less adequate - less attractive. Many times we do not want to bring up each small issue,for fear of looking like a nit picker, but the result is a cascading failure of the relationship as small issues continue to be swept under the carpet. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We must always be sensitive to our partner's feelings - relationships take work, and when both partners work at it - it grows into a lasting romance. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
3) Men stop ogling and women stop checking out cute butts.
4)  Honesty.....no one likes to be lied to so why do it. Tell each other everything, it will produce conversation
5) Have some alone time....every day make a little time whether its just a stroll, or snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie
6) Communicate- tell your partner how you feel, and work things out before they become worse than they are.
7) Always start your day off with a kiss, and a hug, and a good morning- it starts your day off on a positive note, and it feels real good too.
8) Be relaxed and do not be afraid of public displays of affection – some public kissing and tenderness will exhibit to the world how you care about your partner and broadcast to them that you love them and want to make sure that everyone knows it
9) Don't be so serious...Laugh, smile, you know that saying “Partners that laugh together stay together” Its so true.....
10)  Never go to bed angry – talk it out and work it out – the best thing for a relationship is a kiss before you go to sleep. The second best thing is sex before you go to sleep. You cannot have the second without the first.

Relationships are hard work but worth the effort. Keep at it so that your relationship becomes more play than work. When it becomes second nature to you, you have truly achieved the epiphany of satisfaction.

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Exploring The Male G-Spot

 The male orgasm can be an exciting experience, the major function of the male orgasm is the ejaculation, however not all men ejaculate with orgasm. The female orgasm is however still a bit of a debate as to why it happens, it is generally believed that it is to help the sperm proceed along on their journey toward the ovum (egg).

 Most men out there are not at all familiar with their G-spot, some men don't know that they have one. Most of you will be surprised to learn that the male prostate is in fact the equivalent to the women's G-spot. Not many people out there are acquainted with this fact. It is also easier to find the male G-spot. For some people it may seem weird to explore that area, but if you keep an open mind about it you could experience the most fantastic orgasms you could ever hope to have.

FINDING THE MALE G-SPOT

The male G-spot is easy to find, however, it does require some tenacity. It is located below the bladder and in front of the rectum. Lying on your back seems to be the most favorable and comfortable position for this, so you will likely want to use a bed or a large sofa. The process will be easier if you have your legs elevated which you can do by having them hang over the back of the sofa or by leaning them against the wall behind the bed. Try putting a pillow under your derriere  to make it easier to reach the right spot. For first timers take your time and use a gel. Then gently insert a finger into the anus and probe gently, the prostrate gland has been reached when you come across the chestnut sized lump that is roughly about two inches inward.

If your partner is on his back your palm should be up, be sure your fingernails are not sharp, and be sure not to touch your own genital area with the same finger you used to penetrate your partners anus. Always remember that not all men like prostate stimulation just as some women love G-Spot stimulation and others find it uncomfortable. Once located and properly stimulated it will provide men with an orgasm that is more stimulating than they have ever had with regular sex.

Prostate milking as it is also called also enables the man to experience multiple orgasms that are longer in duration and gives them the ability to ejaculate without being sexually excited before hand. Orgasms achieved male G-Spot stimulation can be 400 percent more powerful and can actually last up to 5 minutes. Male G-spot stimulation produces a full body orgasm.

POINTS TO PONDER
 Before you and your significant other begin anal g-spot manipulation, you should take the time to make sure you are relaxed and not just start up in the heat of the moment. Some people have a hot bath before they proceed. Use a finger to locate and stimulate the G-spot if unsure or you are a newbie to this, there are sexual devices you can obtain that can enhance your experience as well. You can also try different methods each time for variety. Practicing oral sex while stimulating the G-spot is one option.

SOME MISCONCEPTIONS

People often think that for a man to play with his own G-spot is weird and perverse, which is the main reason why it is seldom talked about. The truth is that prostate milking is as normal as having intercourse, it is not weird and kinky, and it is not gay. There is nothing  perverse about enjoying the pleasures of self prostrate masturbation. As a very powerful sex gland it can cause a very dynamic orgasm, and it is entirely normal to experiment with it.


“WARNING”

There are some risks associated with prostate milking if it is not done correctly|. Excessive force on the prostate gland can cause several problems such as Gangrene, Hemorrhoidal problems, Blood poisoning and Transferring prostate cancer to various parts of the body. The amount of recommended pressure on the G-spot is comparable to the amount of pressure you would use to rub your eyes with.

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The Most Common Problems Dating Woman

If you are looking for advice on dating women, then hopefully this article will give you a few courses of action. When you are successful with women on a first date, they will will want to date you again, no matter what your financial position is or how you look. There is one key success factor, and that is charm, charm, charm.  Although there is such a thing as too flattering, girls will tend to forgive that. There is however, a few things you should not do such as:
1) Do not kowtow to her excessively such as
a. Making her feel so important that you are less in her eyes. If you are praising her or giving her a complement, do it in a light hearted manner. You will achieve the complement without appearing to be subservient.
b. Asking her to compare you former lovers – on a first date you will always come up short. Do not push this rhetorical button; it is too soon to get into this level of feedback.
c. Ceding control of the date. Questions should not be open ended. If you are not sure of what she would like, then give her a list of two, or at most three choices of things to do next. If she is not happy with any of the choices, then you have have not done sufficient research as to what her preferences are. You have screwed up, you deserve to be dumped. (On subsequent dates, you can ask for ideas, but on a first date you should appear to be on top, thoughtful, but flexible).
2) The next fault is trying to impress her excessively. Do not crow and breast beat, and keep mum on your financial information.  Just be a interested partner, hear and remember what she says, and pay the tab.  Date one is female centric, it is not about you. If she asks questions, then give them a solid well thought out answer but avoid excessive rhetoric, or else you are in the danger zone of coming across in a negative light.
3) Do not put her on a pedestal. That advice is more important if the woman is very pretty.  Very pretty women are used to being on a pedestal. Did you ever notice how often that really attractive women are dating hoodlums?  That is because the bums do not put them on a pedestal and they feel like they are being appreciated for what they are. In many cases the bums treat them like crap, but they like that because it is just different, and different is special to them. Nothing is more tiring to beautiful women as unwanted attention – they have heard it all before.  The better approach is to just ask them something about themselves, such as what they do, what interests them, etc.
4) Being exclusive too soon in a relationship.  Both you and her should be obviously playing the field initially. If you seem too willing to commit exclusively, you will seem  desperate in their eyes.  No woman wants to be dating a grasping loser. You have to come across as successful in relationships, and therefore more interesting in her eyes.

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Manufacturing Mates

The Amazon.com kindle is just one of many e-readers flooding the market currently. In fact, e-readers are going to pretty much shut down the brick and mortar side of the print industry within the next few years. Authors will leverage this paradigm shift to self publish. There will be a lot of book sharing between people. In effect, this will do to books what the Ipod did to music. And although the music industry will cry foul and that people are stealing copyrighted material, the result will be that more people than ever will read on a regular basis. In fact, these e-readers will be the final enabler for people to sell serial stories on a mass basis for the first time. Once publishers and authors adjust to this new paradigm, they will make even more money than ever!

Well so much for speculations about the publishing business. But something that you have to be aware of is the amount of information that companies like Amazon glean from your e-reader habits.  Likely you already know that they use the titles that you purchase to figure out what to recommend to you. Most people would just consider this to be good merchandising. Most people are not aware that Amazon also tracks what you are reading and what you are re-reading as part of this exercise. Just because you buy a book does not mean that you read it and like it. They track how fast you read it, and if you re-read it. The creepy thing is that they also track anything that you highlight as well. They are also sharing this information with publishers so that publishers know what it is that people like within each publishing genre. How scary is that?

Welcome to the true electronic age.

People have been bandying about the term electronic age for over 30 years, but it is only in the last 10 years that it is really getting into the types of machinations that we saw in George Orwell's book 1986. It would seem that our society was a bit slow in living down to George's low expectations of us.

You may wonder what it is that these companies are doing with all of this personal data.

So far, the publishing companies are focusing on choosing plot scenarios that are sure to sell well. They have been financing assistant ghost writers for popular series writers to accelerate their output.. At the same time, they are able to check for consistency of story lines. The star trek series of books through 20 years was written by a series of guest writers. Can you imagine how much better and more successful that series would have been with better character consistency, better plot consistency and better knowledge of what it was that their buyers liked and did not like? What do you think that similar tactics could do for the likes of Nicholas Sparks, Luanne Rice or Ken Follet?

So take it a step further. Why have a real author at all? Why not have an author team and create an artificial persona to front them. They can be cagey and invent a fictitious person by doctoring a photograph, create a website with a blog, have a bunch of social media profiles, and hire a PR team to look after that persona. They could play up the fact that the author has agoraphobia and will not appear in public. Now you get a team of ghost writers to start working on new books, and an editor checking for consistency of story lines if the books are supposed to be a series. If they are just all of a genre, then the only check is for consistent style. Of course the next step in this sequence will be to hire people to do blog posts and answer email from these fake entities. Faced with this, most people would just assume there is a living, breathing person that belongs to the name. Welcome to the likely future of the big publishing companies.

There is another industry that would benefit from applying similar information and tactics. That industry is Web Dating Services!

The work that Microsoft is currently doing with computer interaction is truly impressive, but likely the gaming industry will be the only near-term beneficiary. Apple's deployment of SIRI in a big way is also likely to shape a lot of near future technology.  Voice technology is most critical on small mobile devices, but will find their way into most computer based systems.  The really interesting part will be when voice, gesture and face recognition technology is widely employed in other regular home appliances and vehicles.

What if these gesture recognition, face recognition, interactive voice and video technologies were combined? What if you could come up with a simulacrum that would be able to interactively chat with someone? What if they can recognize you on sight, pull up your previous conversations? What if they can tell if you look sad or tired?

Almost every dating site on the Internet has some form of contact initiation mechanisms where they entice people to respond. Part of this is to get them out of the habit of being lurkers, but mostly it is to coax people into signing up or upgrading to a paid membership. When people upgrade so they can reply to these messages, they have people on staff to interact with you.  So that hot chick that seems to be so enamored with you seems too good to be true, and probably is. There ain't no such thing as a free lunch, and dating sites have to make money to stay in operation. It is not all fake, but some of it is.

It takes a while to find someone to mesh with even on a dating site. You will never do so if you quit too soon, or if you are too timid to interact in the first place. These systems may seem money grubbing and greedy, but they do serve a useful purpose. People who hang around longer are more likely to be successful at finding a match.

Likely the next step for the dating industry would be to manufacture ideal profiles for you based on what you are looking for. You are looking for a 5 foot 5 inch brunette with a trim figure, a steady job, who does not smoke and is not interested in having children. Well amazingly enough, there are a few that have joined up in the last few weeks when you log in and search. In the couple of moments that it takes you to complete a profile, and log in, they could have a bunch of perfect profiles created for you to interact with, and they can keep creating a few more every day for you to find.

What might the next step be? In a decade or so, it should be possible to have a computer generated entity that can interact with you one on one via video chat. Programs currently exist that will can interact with you, and they will fool most people into believing that there is a real person at the other end. Where the media focuses on the more mechanical aspects of artificial intelligence, like walking and running robots, the true breakthroughs that need to be made are on the intelligence side of the equation.  At the present time, nobody has invented a computer based mechanism that is capable of independent thought.

So if you are on a dating site and want to know if a person is real or fake, just try to enter into a video chat with them. The fake ones will never commit to it. If they will not video chat with you, you will know one of two things. They are either lying about what they look like, or else they are really a fake entity. Either way, you are better to seek other people, either on that site or on other sites.

Currently then, your litmus test for determining how authentic someone is on a dating site is video chat. If they are available to video chat, then they are legit.

In spite of all the negative information we just talked about, dating sites do work. I mean, people lie all the time, even in bars. People hand toss out fake names like crazy. Any dating site has literally millions of real people looking to interact. There is a strong chance that many will be in your own town, even if it is small. If you are a man, to minimize the artificial contacts, just upgrade to a paying membership as soon as you join. That will pretty much ensure that you ware always interacting with real people. Women should just join sites where women can interact without paying and men have to pay. These sites will only show women real profiles. Women are strong communicators, so there is no need to entice them into conversation. Sites were men can interact for free tend to be full of cheapskates and unsuccessful men, stay away from them!

This blog post should enable you to understand the more negative side of dating sites, and what is possible. Dating sites do provide a useful service in spite of this, and are worth joining. Just make sure you keep your sensibilities about you.  For a list of some of the better sites, click the link below:

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What Lesbians Are Looking For

 For a lot of lesbians, finding another woman to love can be as easy as googling for lesbian dating sites (or even some more general purpose online dating sites) and creating an true profile that is interesting to read, and then just sit back and wait for them to come to you. It is actually that easy but you should also continue taking your own pro-active steps to meet someone. So spend some time reading other profiles online, because not only might you find some really interesting females to connect to, but you could also get some good ideas of things that you could have put in your profile or different ways of phrasing your profile to make it more interesting. If someone's wording or ideas caught your eye, then similar wording or ideas might help your profile catch someone else's eye. A number of lesbians find themselves in groups of singles while they are doing things they enjoy, are at work, and attending social gatherings. Any special event that attracts you will also attract like minded individuals, so you should always be on the lookout for someone with interests compatible to  yours.


 A bad mistake that many lesbians make when having their first relationship is moving too fast. Soon you might find yourself in bed next to someone you don't really know. Go out on a few outings first, take the time to explore if you have anything in common. You must have some common interests, values and plans for the future that will compliment each other. Share things with each other, if you get a new job, if a friend has a baby, a party is planned, a commendation you might have gotten, share these things with you partner, you should not only think of them as your lover but also your best friend.


If you are at a family gathering or with friends and someone starts telling gay and lesbian jokes that are in bad taste and insulting to you and your partner, and you see your partner is disgusted by it, just get up and leave, tell them you came to enjoy yourselves not to listen to a lot of trash about how other people live their lives|One awkward situation would be to find yourselves at a social or family gathering and hear people dissing the gay and lesbian community at large. This will require you to make a stand and let people know that you will not tolerate statements of that nature. Insult them if you have to. Hopefully your family and friends understand your sexuality so you can then tell them that you are not at all happy about what was said, and if they really think that, then they are lowlifes that you do not want to associate with anymore. After all, who needs to go anywhere and be made to feel bad.


Introduce your partner to your friends and family and involve them in everything that you do. It is important when you are trying to advance a relationship to involve your family and other friends as much as possible.


Being one of God's chosen people, at least when it comes to aids, lesbians are just so lucky that their partner fully gets what it takes to satisfy them sexually. Women just know what they need to do to keep each other hyped up during sex.  Gay men are similarly blessed, but the aids specter spoils the fun a lot.  Pity the poor heterosexual couples where each party is not quite sure what makes the other either satisfied or happy.


Life is for living and enjoying, so live it to the fullest. Share your life with others, and try to surround yourselves with loving and caring family and friends who accept you for what you are and will be there for you at any time should you need them.


 Just remember people are always a little uneasy about things they really don't know a lot about so try to stick with those who have a positive attitude.  Since you are lesbians, then it would be best if many of your friends are from the lesbian community. Open minded heterosexual friends are tough to find, so if you have a few, cherish them and nurture them.


One of the great secrets of the bible is that God created Adam and Eve, but then  after thinking it through made Eve a woman to keep her happy.




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Understanding Sex Appeal

What is the je ne sais quas of sex appeal? The dictionary describes it as”the capability to attract sexual interest from others”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”attractive in a sexual way.” You might confuse the two as being the same, but you would be wrong, as you will see below.

Assume a man sees  a cute girl walking down the street wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top for visual impact.  He may trip over his tongue because she looks sexy, but does that mean she has sex appeal? While sexy and sex appeal are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do to get a more appreciative  look?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there is lots of sexy eye candy to attract their short term attention. Sexy for the most part will always get attention,but unlike sex appeal it will never hold interest. Sexy is eye candy first and foremost, and will generally never amount to more than that.  Someone who dresses to grab attention can be sexy, but it will seldom if ever lead to more persistence of notice, and that is the difference here. Sexy is the whipped cream without the pie.

Sex appeal is more than just eye candy, it is more about having poise, and knowing your worth. When someone has these features they catch the eye of surrounding people. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will will command positive attention regardless of the attire. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always intelligent individuals  with a sense of humour, and who are comfortable with their own sexuality. Everyone knows a few people that are upbeat and positive even in adverse situations. It lets people know that they're fun to be with, and this is another trait of sex appeal.

Sex appeal holds its head high, it stands tall,and makes its presence known. Women with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  treat each relationship as a fresh new experience and do not expect people to behave like others, either positively or negatively. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal generally emanates from positive outgoing people never run down, but rather talk up other people. All of this flows from them being the sensual and loving people that they are.

Now do you see the differences? It pretty much boils down to this-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about stature, personal development and image of yourself. Men will look at sexy—no doubt, but it takes the whole person to get into his head, and past the eyes.

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